5 Powerful Tips to Build Self-Confidence

Being self-confident is something that should come naturally to all of us. But the majority of us can agree that self-confidence is not natural for all of us.

Almost all human beings are only born with 2 fears – the fear of heights and the fear of loud sounds. Both these fears are for self-preservation.

But what happens when we grow up?

We fear looking stupid. We believe that others are smarter and more capable than us. We feel inferior and lack self-confidence.

Where did these fears and traits come from if most of us started out with a relatively blank slate when born?

The answer is that we’ve been conditioned by society. Parents, teachers, friends, and what we’ve seen and believed make us think that we’re less than capable. With the prevalence of social media and the glamorous lifestyle pictures that everyone keeps posting, now more than ever before, people feel unconfident and lacking.

Below are 5 powerful tips of self-confidence we should all adopt. Even if you’re quaking in your boots, go ahead and fake it till you feel it. The more confident you act, the more confident you’ll become.

1. Accept Yourself

The first rule is to accept yourself for who you are. We’re all flawed human beings who have made mistakes, embarrassing blunders, etc. Reliving your past mistakes over and over and feeling bad about yourself will wreak havoc on your self-confidence.

Learn how to accept everything about yourself from your looks to your interests. Accept your body with all of its flaws. Accept your interests no matter how different they may make you.

Once you learn how to accept yourself there will be very few things in this world that will be able to make you feel inferior.

It’s better to just love yourself and remember that there is only one you and you have to be your biggest fan.

2. Be self-aware

We all have strengths and weaknesses. Focus on your strengths and shine at them rather than trying to shore up your weaknesses. Part of being self-confident is knowing your strengths and what makes you, you.

Beyonce’s strength is singing and entertaining… and she is amazing at it. She’s one of the most popular entertainers of all time. She knew what she was good at and honed in on her skills. You should do the same.

The only thing you shouldn’t do is compare your skills to someone else’s. We are all unique, even if we are doing the same things. Focus your attention on your skills and what makes you good.

Looking at the skills of others and comparing yourself will only cause you to lose your self-confidence.

You must be self-aware and know your strengths. Now focus on them and be the best that you can be. You’ll be an astounding success and self-confidence will come naturally.

3. Watch your emotions

Always be mindful of your inner dialogue and how you feel. Old patterns of thought may start telling you why you’re lacking and so on. Immediately say an affirmation out loud such as,

“I am perfect just the way I am”.

We have to be careful how we talk to ourselves. You wouldn’t tell your best friend how much they suck at life, so why would you say it yourself.

Self-confidence is about being gentle with ourselves because we are human. You shouldn’t treat yourself badly. Treat yourself how you would treat your best friend, with love and respect.

If you need the practice to learn how to talk to yourself, try affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to learn positive self-talk and build confidence.

The moment you speak your truth out loud, it blocks your inner dialogue and prevents your old train of thoughts from carrying on. Do this enough times and you’ll slowly eliminate negative thoughts and your emotions will be in check.

4. Practice Self-Care

You’ll gain self-respect and confidence when you pay attention to the way you look and how you feel. Your body is your temple and the way you choose to take care of it reflects how much you truly love and appreciate it.

Self-care is important for mental, emotional, and physical health. Practicing self-care helps to make you feel good about yourself and it’s actually a good way for you to reconnect with yourself.

Practice good personal hygiene. Wear clothes that make you look good. If you feel down, start a gratitude journal. Need more self-care ideas?

Add at least one self-care activity into your weekly schedule and notice how much your self-confidence grows.

5. Set goals and achieve

Nothing will do more to build self-confidence than to set goals and smash them. Initially, you may set small goals and celebrate once you achieve your goals. Then it’s just a matter of setting bigger goals and seeing them through to completion.

Start with small goals, such as making your bed every morning. Even a goal this small will make you feel accomplished. Start making small goals that align with your bigger goals.

Set realistic timelines and realistic goals. Don’t start out too big, because you may only end up discouraging yourself.

You want to gain momentum and see your goals through to completion. Success breeds success and the more capable you become, the more accomplishments you’ll have in your arsenal – and you’ll have confidence because you know you’ve done it.

Give these 5 tips a try and build your self-confidence. You are more in control of yourself and your life than you think.

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